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Why Did You Get Married In The First Place?
“I’m getting a divorce! I don’t love you anymore! You make me so mad! Besides, we don’t have anything in common!” How would you like to have been greeted with those words this morning?
“For I hate putting away, saith Jehovah” (Malachi 2:16). That is the number one reason why divorce should never happen. The other reason is because regardless how bad you believe things are in your marriage, it can be better. You may think there is no hope, but God believes there is.
Not only does God command husband and wife to live together, He commands them to stay together (Matthew 19:6). He commands them to meet each other’s needs (1 Corinthians 7:2-5). He teaches a couple to love one another (Ephesians 5:25; Titus 2:4,5). He wants a husband and wife to submit to one another in the fear of Christ, not the fear of each other (Ephesians 5:21).
Have you ever thought about how vital forgiveness is to your marriage? Most couples disregard it, because all they think about is how bad their spouse has punished them, abused them, or hurt them. “I’m sorry. Please forgive me” is one of the first steps toward healing any conflict in marriage. The second step is “I forgive you.” Put those two elements together and you have reconciliation.
You owe it to your marriage to apologize, forgive, and be reconciled. “The merciful man does himself good, but the cruel man does himself harm” (Proverbs 11:17). Besides, why did you get married - to stay together or to get a divorce?
